Should You Elope In Secret?


Can we all just collectively agree to get rid of the stigma behind elopements? I think we all can say with utter confidence that what elopements were considered back then and what they are now are completely different, right? As time has moved forward, the idea behind what an elopement truly is has dramatically shifted. You can hear more of my thoughts on that here. However, one question that continuously is brought up as there is a bit of confusion is whether or not elopements are done in secret. Do elopements have to be done in secret? These are the questions that have left many couples and people in general wondering forever and I am here to put a stop to all the gossip and spit the hard, cold truth! 

Are Elopements Done In Secret?


The short answer is no. Elopements are not all done in secret and they do not have to be if you don’t want it to be! Years ago, elopements were seen as running away with your partner to Vegas and getting married by Elvis Presley. While yes, these types of ceremonies happen, that’s just not all that elopements are cracked up to be. The idea that getting married in secret is completely out of range of what eloping is in today’s generation.


Eloping does not mean you need to hide it from your family and friends. Having an elopement does not mean that you are sneaking around and revealing your true intentions after the fact. An elopement is more about the type of wedding celebration that you want and who you want to surround yourself with, rather than why you’re eloping in the first place

What Is The Point Of Eloping?


I have written a full blog post all about the difference between an elopement and intimate wedding, which you can view here. An elopement focuses more on an intimate and more private experience, while a traditional wedding has a much larger guest count. Elopements are typically centered around being more intimate, private and intentional while a traditional wedding can be a bit more grand in its nature.

Should You Elope In Secret?


As a Utah Wedding Photographer, I will never tell any of my couples how they choose to celebrate their wedding day. Whether that is wanting a large traditional and grand wedding, or something much smaller and intimate like an elopement. At the end of the day, when it comes to the decision on whether or not you should elope in secret there are a few factors that you should consider.


  • What kind of experience are you wanting to have?
  • Who do you want to be there supporting you and your partner?
  • How much are you wanting to spend on your wedding day?


These three questions amongst the plethora of others, are just some of the things that you may want to ask yourself when it comes to whether or not you want to elope in secret.

Who Should Elope?


In general, eloping is the perfect opportunity for couples who want something a bit more intimate and special with their SO. You typically will not have more than a couple of people witness your wedding which allows you to have your full focus on the day ahead and celebrating the love between you and your partner.


Should You Elope In Secret?


As a wedding photographer, I believe that love is celebrated in all different ways, shapes and forms. Whether you want to elope in secret or choose to tell your family and friends, that is entirely up to you and your partner. The most important thing is being able to celebrate your love authentically and genuinely to yourselves as possible. That could be running away together and soaking in that newlywed bliss just the two of you, or letting family/friends know. Best thing about this? The choice is yours!

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